tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post4505452558068064800..comments2024-01-15T06:16:22.767-05:00Comments on DE Mommy: Pooped and also NotDE Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15708985828556543174noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-76301412458695508372009-04-09T10:56:00.000-04:002009-04-09T10:56:00.000-04:00Hi, I just found your blog. I am gearing up for m...Hi, I just found your blog. I am gearing up for my first cycle with DE and am looking at the blogosphere for women who are going through the emotional challenge. My story is a little bit different...but I hope you'll add me to your blog roll.<BR/>Thanks.Pufferfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03534200400439443949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-70989551180293524882009-03-03T16:11:00.000-05:002009-03-03T16:11:00.000-05:00I don't think it is that simple because I knew I w...I don't think it is that simple because I knew I would be 100% (or at least 98%) ok in the long wrong - and by long run I thought a year at most. I felt I was 75% ok before we conceived, but now there are moments when I see I am not 100% resolved. I think it is my nature to wonder 'what if'.<BR/><BR/>I also think that there are bad parents and a child not of adoption could have the same complaint of their bio parents but can't blame it on the adoption.<BR/><BR/>But it is good, now that I have had a bad day, to explore the issue a bit more because I certainly don't want LB feeling she wasn't enough no matter what the reason.Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-3931882041596162122009-02-27T22:35:00.000-05:002009-02-27T22:35:00.000-05:00i am also a de mom to a 7 month old baby boy. i lo...i am also a de mom to a 7 month old baby boy. i love him more every day but i did not feel like his real mom for a long time and am just now starting to. i definately had a hard time coming to the de option. i was afraid the child would one day feel i was not his mother.and i think about it every day. i think things will work out and be fine and i'm glad we did it.i feel a strong sense of responsibilty towards him . he will feel loved and very wanted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-83328137257315155602009-02-14T00:39:00.000-05:002009-02-14T00:39:00.000-05:00I definitely had to mourn the genetic connection I...I definitely had to mourn the genetic connection I would lose by using donor eggs. That being said, I think I feel as close to these babies as I would if they were from my own eggs. (Never being pregnant before, I cannot say for sure, I guess.) However, we had a long waiting period between the initial discussion of DE and the actually donation. Although I was upset at the time for the long wait, now I view it as a blessing: we have come to this decision with no regrets, only excitement and hopefulness.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11096628572640730109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-19210243389155457622009-02-13T11:59:00.000-05:002009-02-13T11:59:00.000-05:00I found your blog and am a DE mom of twins at wife...I found your blog and am a DE mom of twins at wifethereof.blogspot.com<BR/>I wanted to let you know that I'm going to start blogging again and go to invite only because people IRL might find it. Send me an email if you still want to read. wifethereof@yahoo.comwifethereofhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04915204927623670614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-19012453734923543062009-02-09T10:46:00.000-05:002009-02-09T10:46:00.000-05:00I can't imagine anyone disagreeing, but I suppose ...I can't imagine anyone disagreeing, but I suppose there are people out there who do! But coming to the DE process was/is a challenge. I feel really good about my contribution to our future fetus (fingers crossed) and the horrible crushing feeling when we lost the baby last time was all about MY baby, not the donor's egg. <BR/><BR/>Glad you are doing well with the weight and hopefully you are able to pamper yourself a bit while you're housing three souls!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-49672287565009738742009-02-08T10:05:00.000-05:002009-02-08T10:05:00.000-05:00I really did long for that genetic connection. Wh...I really did long for that genetic connection. When my RE first suggested DE, my response was "no, f*cking way. I want my OWN child." I couldn't get my mind around how my daughter could claim my bloodline as her own -- silly, I know. <BR/><BR/>I guess I assume that most people start out yearning for a genetic connection. When it's not possible, most can move on. It's not second best. It's just different. <BR/><BR/>I think that the children get screwed up when the parents proceed without working through their feelings. I admit that I was concerned that subconsciously, I might short change my daughter, that I might not love her as much, even though I had broken with the notion of having a genetically related child and had moved on as much as was humanly possible.<BR/><BR/>Because I had already worked through the loss, it was such a non-issue. When she kicked inside, she was my baby. When she was born, she was my baby. And now that she is a wonderful little four year old, she's my girl. And I wouldn't trade her for anything, not even if someone offered me a do-over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8218625895714675460.post-65755104710216345372009-02-07T19:35:00.000-05:002009-02-07T19:35:00.000-05:00I totally agree with you. I'm an scouring the heck...I totally agree with you. I'm an scouring the heck out of my psyche as I wend my way towards egg donation (one more IVF with eggs) because I can't bear to do DE if I can't be 100% (ok, I'd settle for 98%) excited, committed and ready to a mother to my DE babies.<BR/>I think you should blog about this--it can get a bit nicey nicey,and not enough thinky thinky if we don't challenge each other on these things!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com