Monday, March 21, 2011

It's Happening

Everything is official: we've donated 6 very high quality frozen embryos to our friend. These are what our clinic considers absolutely exceptionally high quality embryos. We've talked with our friend; we've done the counseling; we've signed all the legal and medical papers.

Our friend is going to have a baby--she's going to complete her family. And we helped.

We've spoken in detail about how we will be in the future. First, it will be OPEN. We will talk through what we need to. But I anticipate that our friend is going to need some space, at least initially, to establish in her head and in her heart that this is completely her child.

We are excited for her to enter that phase and come out with her completed family.

And in the future---8 years? 10 years? 18 years? I don't know. But in the future, I imagine we'll establish a closer relationship with them, maybe even a close relationship. That future is open and fuzzy, I don't know the details. But I do know that for all of us, it is positive.

What I feel most clearly in my heart is right now love. Love for our friend. Love for her child.

I do feel anxious. I'd be crazy not to recognize that emotion, too. These could have been our children. But I swear to you with all that I know is true: All the children who are supposed to be with us are with us right now. These children go to another family. They are supposed to be there.

So there.

Now you know.


Brenda said...

That's wonderful news! We haven't completed our family yet, but we have 16 high quality embryos on ice right now. When we are done, we would like to donate them to help others achieve the same "completeness" that we have. It is great to read someone who has already gone through the process and is content with it. Thanks for sharing.

Summer said...

Wow, what great news! I think you're right in that it may take time, but it will be a positive thing for everyone all around.

Also, glad to hear from you!

Rosie said...

Mazel Tov! Congratulations! I think doing this is very generous and courageous. I hope it enriches your life with extended family and joy.