However, yesterday was my birthday. It was a "big" year and felt meaningful. And, it was by far the happiest birthday I can remember for one very important reason: my family is complete. Everyone who is supposed to be here is here. I am absolutely and totally in love with my family.
For those of you still moving down this path: it is so amazingly worth it when you finally reach then end. CHOOSE THE RIGHT CLINIC and join me at the end with your child(ren). (And should you also choose donor egg, for the sake of your children, please deal with your ambivalence about a genetic connection before you get pregnant)
Whether it's adoption, IVF, surrogate, blended family or donor sperm/egg, I hope *your* path takes you to your desired destination.
Happiness is fleeting so I am enjoying it (as sleep deprived as I am) as much as I can.
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I am happy that you are happy. And I second your concern about resolving ambivalence about DE before pregnancy, to the extent that it is possible. It is so sad for me to read about these struggles during someone's pregnancy, and I always want to reach through the computer and hug them.
Happy belated birthday!
A belated Happy Birthday!
I think choosing the right clinic is crucial, too. For me, if it hadn't worked since I was happy with my clinic, I knew I would not have regretted it.
Happy Birthday! Glad to hear you are are satisfied and fulfilled.
I love that SART website - so much easier to compare clinics than CDC.
I disagree with your statement that you need to get over your ambivalence about DE before getting pregnant. I know everyone is different, but I am glad we pressed on even though I grieved that loss while I was pregnant.
In fact, I still feel that loss and probably always will. I suspect it is different if you are able to have one genetic child because then you have that experience and you won't always wonder what it would have been like.
The important part, the way I see it, is to love the child you raise unconditionally and to separate the grief of not having a genetic child from the children you do have.
You are awesome, I applaude you.
It's me jojobee now twin mommy, I've made my blog private, I'd love to add you to my blog list to continue reading: you can email me at: hopepof@hotmail.com
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