I have told a few more people in my world what is going. 99% of the people who know are people 1) whom I trust to not tell a soul, 2) who don't know anybody in my day-to-day world, or 3) who don't give a shit. There is only one person I've told who I think could say something, but I've given her the story of what to say: she can say she knows "somebody" who has used DE, but she can't say it's me. I think it's wrong to not let others know thatDE is a viable option. Nonetheless, there's that one neighbor of mine who has already stated her discomfort with a friend who used a surrogate. I do not want her to EVER know we've used DE. We might as well write it in neon around our city and have her comment that it's not our "real child" as a subtitle.
One thing that is funny is that since we seriously considered adoption, I don't worry about thinking a DE child will be mine. It is so not even a part of my mindset that sometimes I don't understand it. But I fully realize that when DE Daddy and I were dating we never expected that we would be able to conceive on our own. So our son is ths shock, not that we're on some other path to finish building our family.
I still need to post on the spate of twins in Hollywood for the 40+ women. Bleah. I was all worked up when I read it. Now it's late and I want to go to bed.